5 Benefits of BDSM in Today's Political Culture

5 Benefits of BDSM in Today's Political Culture
POSTED ON September 4, 2018

We know right? Super strange title. For the vast majority of people there's tons of mystery and taboo surrounding BDSM and its culture, but believe it or not there's actually a lot of good life lessons to be learned from this not so popular subculture.


#1 The Importance of Consistent Effective Communication

Next to breathing and drinking water, communication is one of the most vital life skills there are. Now just because you can speak a language doesn't make you a good communicator. You see, there's two major parts to the word "communication" the first is "communi-" meaning a community or group, the second is the suffix "-tion" denoting a process. So there's a continual process of communication that actively happens between people. Right about now you may be thinking, But Intimacy Advisor, how does this have anything to do with BDSM? Well dear reader, communication is especially important in BDSM from before the beginning to after the end of dirty playtime to establish boundaries, let your partner(s) know what feels good, what's the safe word, what's too far, etc. All of those ensure max pleasure and a positive experience for everybody. While BDSM has a lot of practices not present in other areas of intimate relationships, the core idea of consistent effective communication remains important. Have you talked with your spouse, significant other, lover about what makes you feel good? Have you asked them what makes them feel good? Do either of you want to try something new? Just talk about it.

#2 The Absolute Need for Consent

Consent and the voluntary giving of it is the single most important part of ANY sexual encounter. There's a major difference between sexual violence and the incredible pleasure one can experience in BDSM. The two contrast heavily as you're open, inviting, desiring, and excited for what's to about to happen in BDSM. People are beautiful vibrant beings deserving of dignity and proper care. People should be treated like people.

#3 Learning to Play Again

BDSM shoves all stress to the side and teaches us to play again and not worry about work, bills, or anything in the outside world. What happens to us as we get older? For about the first twenty-two years of our life we're told to grow, learn, have fun, live life, but soon after college it's get a job, work at least forty hours a week, and have fun only on weekends, holidays, and your two vacation weeks a year. That's not good. Life is too short to work yourself into the grave. Think about this: the average work week is 40 hours, say you have about a 15 minute commute one way to work equaling 2 and a half hours a week, but you also need to sleep so say about 6 hours a night, well all seven nights is 42 hours. There are only 168 hours total out of seven days. Add everything up. 84.5 hours divided by 168 is 50.3% half your life is eaten up by work, traffic, or being unconscious. If you work more, sleep more, or have a longer commute, that percent is higher and does not even account for everything else adults have to do. Sounds like you need to play a little more. It will increase intimacy through prolonged close physical contact in combination with open communication. Plus, sex is a natural stress reducer. And who doesn't like less stress?

#4 Being More Open-Minded

BDSM helps people be more open and understanding of different kinds of people, their needs, and their desires. There's a lot of variety within the BDSM culture and those that participate are open to conversing about it because they understand the value of consistent effective communication and finding out what works like the Fetish Fantasy Beginners Ball Gag and what doesn't for people. Being open minded helps people make better decisions because they're more accepting of the reality of things but they're also sponges of new knowledge. People only know whats good for them when they try new things, and the more they try the more they find out what's best for them like the two people who enjoy these nipple clamps. The people who try the most things are the people who are the most open, because they're the most willing and open. This goes for every area of your life, not just sex.

#5 Being More Confident

When people are in an open environment of consistent effective communication they're far more likely to be confident about what it is THEY truly want, and maybe that's a spanking paddle. Often times people pass up what they really want in the bedroom for what's normal or easier because they're either too afraid or feel too awkward to have that conversation with their lover. But in BDSM that kind of conversation is encouraged so everyone can get the most out of their fetish experience. That kind of conversation should happen more often in the outside world. Not what toy or accessory gives you the most pleasure DO NOT ask your co-workers that, but working on communicating with a more open-minded attitude so you can effective convey your message to whomever you're talking to.

 

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