Ask A Romance Specialist: Unique Gifts, Taboo Kinks, & More

Ask A Romance Specialist: Unique Gifts, Taboo Kinks, & More
POSTED ON December 21, 2017

Another edition of Ask A Romance Specialist is here, just in time for your last-minute gift needs! Our curious fans have some unique questions this month – keep reading to find out our answers! As always, click Ask Our Romance Specialist at the top of the page or right here to send us a question yourself.


I want to give my girlfriend a fun, unique gift this year, but time is running out. Help! – Lucas

Luckily, our stores are open all weekend long so you have options right up until Christmas Eve! Now that you know where to turn, the question is what should you get? When it comes to fun and unique, we always love the Love Is Art kits, which come in bright wedding white and galactic cosmos! Perfect for creative, artsy couples, these kits come with everything you need to paint your own one-of-a-kind piece of abstract art.

The catch, of course, is that you create it by covering your body in washable paint and making love on the canvas. Is anything more titillating and romantic than creating artwork through your love together? We also love the idea of prominently displaying the painting in your home; your guests will be none the wiser as they admire your fine taste in art!

Top it off with the perfect accessory to a night of romance: a seductively-scented massage candle! Our latest favorites are Sparkling Strawberry Wine and Exotic Green Tea Pear.

I have a few questions. First, I really enjoy the feeling of wearing women’s panties. Is that too weird and should I tell my girlfriend? The second is that I also enjoy smelling them after they have been worn (though not by me). How would I ask my girlfriend if I could smell her used panties? - Henry

Well, we have good news for you, Henry. If it’s not harmful to another person, it’s not too weird! Assuming that you are wearing panties that you yourself bought, of course. We hope you are not surreptitiously taking your girlfriend’s panties, because that would absolutely be wrong. As to whether you should tell her, the fact that you are wondering means that you want to tell her. It also directly relates to your next question, about asking if you can smell hers. The trick is to ease into finding out how she feels about these kinks. Try to casually bring up the idea of straight men wearing panties, and why that might feel good. How she reacts to simply talking about it will be a good indicator for how you should proceed.

As for asking to smell hers, frame it in a way that shows her it’s about how much she turns you on. Tell her how good her sex smells. If she responds positively to this kind of statement, you might want to come right out and simply ask if you can smell her panties. We can’t stress enough that you must consider her level of comfort with regard to all of this. By starting small, you should be able to tell if you can take the conversation further. You might find out that she’s not interested in either scenario, so you should also really decide how important these particular kinks are to you. Not every kink needs to be indulged if you and your partner are fulfilling each other in so many other ways.

Which toys can help a woman achieve super intense orgasms? - Bella

There are so many options when it comes to powerful vibrators, but we’ll recommend just three of our favorites. The Doxy Die Cast Massage Wand is an elegant toy that provides seriously intense orgasms in an extremely short amount of time – some women even say they have orgasmed within one minute! The Jack Rabbit Silicone Thrusting Rabbit Vibrator is another great choice thanks to the thrusting motions and ultra-powerful motor. If you want impressive orgasms from a smaller toy, the strong and deep vibration capabilities of the Tango Solo make this bullet a true powerhouse.

We want you and your partner to have super hot sex that fulfills your needs and strengthens your intimacy! If you need some help getting there, you know who to ask: our Romance Specialist by clicking right here or at the top of the page.

As always, feel free to stop by your local Lover’s Lane for a live resource. We are open 10am-10pm on Saturday and 11am-6pm on Sunday for all your last-minute needs! You can also discreetly browse our collections of holiday adult toys, holiday lingerie, and holiday accessories – as well as everything we have for her and for him any time online.

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