POSTED ON April 1, 2015
Female orgasms are a beautiful and wonderful thing – but not every woman is having them, and we think that’s just not right. Whether it’s because they’ve never felt confident enough to express what’s working for them, or they’ve never taken the time to figure out what their own bodies need, too many women are faking orgasms. This is not good for women, but it’s also not good for their partners, who may think they’ve been blowing her mind but really all they’ve been blowing is their own load.
In the spirit of promoting female orgasms for every woman out there, we’ve put together a little guide on the ins and outs of female orgasms. From the adult sex toys that can help you get there to the best sex positions for maximum pleasure, we have the scoop on all things orgasmic. Keep reading and you might even learn a thing or two!
1. Never underestimate the importance of lube.
It’s a fact: wetness makes female orgasms easier to achieve. If your own body doesn’t produce enough, and this can definitely be the case no matter how turned on you are, some lubricant will do the trick. Find the kind that works best for you, and keep a bottle in your nightstand drawer.
2. Don’t forget to breathe.
Take a tip from the world of yoga and remember to breathe when you’re about to climax. Experts suggest your pleasure will be deeper and more intense if you thoroughly inhale and exhale during sex.
3. Remember your Kegels.
Doing Kegels (squeezing and releasing the muscle of the pelvic floor) is an incredibly simple exercise any woman can do at any time in order to gain better control of her orgasms. The more you practice, the better you will get. Squeeze during sex for intensified female orgasms. Kegel exercisers and Ben Wa balls are another way to work these muscles; if you’re unfamiliar with these sex toys, read our guide on how to use Ben Wa balls.
4. Focus on your whole body.
An orgasm is a full-body experience, so take another tip from those who practice yogic benediction and focus on how you feel everywhere. When you feel the energy of being with your partner coursing all throughout you, you begin to open yourself up to the possibility of greater intensity. Let yourself go, and the climax will surely follow.
Types of Female Orgasms:
The clitoris is typically the key to female orgasms, and this type of orgasm is sure to send most women flying sky high to the moon. But don’t worry if it doesn’t for you! Every woman is different, every body is different, and what works for some people isn’t always guaranteed to work for others. Get in touch with your body, express your desires to your partner, and orgasms are sure to come. That being said, the chance of orgasm increases if you don’t head straight to the clitoris. Touch and caress all around the area, and absolutely do not forego oral. To make things a little more interesting, you can bring in adult sex toys like the Hello Touch from JimmyJane.
Practice with G-spot vibrators and vaginal orgasms will come quickly. First things first: you must locate the spongy area inside the vagina, along the front wall. Once you’re become familiar with the G-spot, direct your partner to aim his thrusts there. Deeper and more targeted thrusting will better stimulate the G-spot, making the likelihood of female orgasms far higher. To experiment with or without your partner, try out the Ina Wave Ocean Blue.
The blended orgasm is master among female orgasms. As a combination of both clitoral and vaginal, this type of orgasm is likely to be more intense than either kind are on their own. To get there, keep that foreplay going for as long as possible. The more turned on you are, the more likely you are to experience a blended orgasm. Combine all the tricks from above, and a blended orgasm is closer than you might have realized. For a little extra help, try a couples toy like the We Vibe 4 Plus, which is designed to be using during sex and features clitoral and G-spot stimulators. (Although feel free to use it solo, too!)
Yes, multiple orgasms can be a possibility for some women – one right after the other, in swift succession. If you can withstand continuous stimulation immediately after orgasming, you can give achieving multiple orgasms a shot. Have your partner start with the clitoris. Once you’ve been brought to climax there, your partner should keep going. Start slow and work back up until you’ve been brought to climax again, and again, and again…! If you’re up for a very sexy challenge, go for the gold with multiple orgasms.
The Best Positions for Female Orgasms:
This classic position is so for a reason. When surveyed, a majority of women pointed to the missionary position as their favorite. It’s not hard to see why, as there’s nothing more intimate than the feeling of your partner’s body directly on top of yours. Make the most of this position with a diagonal entrance, creating more friction against the clitoris, as well as employing a pillow to give a little bit of lift and help reach that ever-important G-spot.
2. Woman on Top
Woman on top is one of the best positions for female orgasms because it puts her in control. Not only that, but the clitoris is front and center, allowing for easy access and sweet stimulation. With the woman on top, she’s in control of motion, depth, and pace. Her partner can lie back and go along for the ride or help by bobbing her hips up and down.
3. Doggy Style
Doggy style is a favorite among both men and women because it gives her control while giving him a great view. With this position, the angle can be easily adjusted for maximum pleasure, and the clitoris is also within very easy reach. She can stimulate herself, he can reach in front to touch her, or they can have the best of both worlds and take turns. Mini bullet vibrators are perfect for enhancing doggie style.
We hope we’ve been able to demystify and open some minds to the capabilities and possibilities of female orgasms. Don’t deny yourself the wonder of an orgasm because you’ve been nervous, it’s been so long, or you’re just not sure where to start. Your body will appreciate it, your mind will thank you, and your partner will be that much more turned on knowing you’re actually getting off.
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