The first thing we need to discuss before getting into the sexy, tips, hints, and tricks, is that masturbation is OK and I encourage it (to some extent, extremes of anything is usually bad). People don’t talk about sex nearly as much as they need to but also rarely in the fashion that they need to.
Sex is good
Masturbation is good
Being sexual is good and encouraged
Just make sure you’re being sexual in the right settings. When done right, sex and masturbation are healthy habits that improve the quality of your life.
Chances are, you should be having more sex and/or masturbating more. Maybe you’re already at a healthy level, but most aren’t.
Everybody needs some self-love from time to time. Generally, people in relationships need it less than singles. Masturbating is ok. If you usually don’t masturbate, it can feel pretty awkward at first, but trust me, keep going. Some days, I’m abnormally tired or got a lingering headache so I rub one out and I feel 10X better.
Aside from giving you more energy (which happens for a number of reasons) and the potential to reduce pain/stress, sex has numerous health benefits like raising your immunity, boosts brain power, and improves sleep. We actually have a whole article on this titled, “Top 10 Reasons to Have More Sex.”
Ok time for actual tips. It’s no secret that the clitoris is more often than not the focal point of female masturbation. However, there’s more to self-love than rubbing the clit like there’s no tomorrow. You can dress up for yourself. You don’t have to go the whole nine-yards of hair and make-up if you don’t want to but put that that super cute babydoll or that gorgeous corset.
When you’re all dressed up, it’s time to strip down! The key here is to savor each moment. Go about it slowly. Feel yourself all over. Scratch yourself a bit if you want or gently glide your fingertips over every inch of skin. Run your hands through your hair. Play with yourself. Remove your panties absolutely last.
Now the clitoris takes center stage! For an enhanced experience you might want to combine your soon to be clitoral orgasm with some g-spot or anal play. As amazing as your hand can be, sometimes the extra stimulation a toy gives pushes you over the edge into pure orgasmic bliss. Here are some recommendations:
All of those toys are phenomenal, each one is sure to give you mind shattering orgasms especially with the right waterbased lube, and that shaft/tip combination is definitely not going out of style anytime soon. But if you’re looking for something different then you have to take a look at these four: