POSTED ON August 23, 2019
It's no secret that there's a definite gap between the amount and the kind of pleasure that men experience and that women experience. But what can be done about this? Surely we can't let the women of the world go on sexually unsatisfied (though I know some are very satisfied). Which brings us to today's topic!
First and foremost, I want to establish that this article is not meant to be a "How to Satisfy your Woman" article, if you want something like that we have The Complete Guide to Female Pleasure & Passion, Make Her Moan: Getting the Most out of Facesitting, How to Improve your Relationship: Cuddle After Sex, Romantic Intelligence: How to be a Romantic, Male & Female Orgasms: What Makes Each Unique. Plus, there's still so much more.
This article is meant to talk about equality, not one over the other, but since women are generally on the worse side of things, they'll get more attention here.
The Pleasure Gap
Most women take anywhere from 30 to 40 minutes to orgasm whereas guys are lucky if they're still going after 5 minutes. This is where a lot of the problem stems from, because he has climaxed when she has not. This is where foreplay comes in. The more aroused she is, the closer to and easier it will be for her to orgasm. You could bring her to orgasm before your manhood goes inside, that way, no matter how long you last, she's still satisfied. Also, her second orgasm does not take as long as the first one, so she might climax again while you're inside.
But here's some other things to think about: when was the last time you gave her oral? Do you know where the clitoris is? Do you know how to stimulate the clitoris? Do you ever play with her nipples/breasts? How often do you grab her butt?
Or do you get naked, maybe kiss a couple times, and go straight in? Hint- Bad move.
Spice it Up
When was the last time you indulged one of her fantasies? Do you even know what they are? Enacting a fantasy can be an incredibly hot time for both people, but especially whose fantasy it is. Maybe you just need to change up the routine. Same thing to you ladies. When was the last time you indulged one of his fantasies? Or did one of his favorite positions? Experiment with new positions, there's plenty out there that I promise you will not get bored. There's tons of great books out there if you want some more in-depth/visual. I'll even give you a teaser for some of them:
- Position of the Day
- She stands straight up then bends down forward to touch her toes. He sits or crouches down while eating her out from behind.
- Position Sex Mini Book
- 365 Sex Moves
- Cosmo's Sexy Sutra
- Sex challenge: While your guy's still sleeping, get on top of him stark naked and pepper his face with light kisses to wake him up. Then press your body hard against him and begin inching his boxers down his hips. He'll be up and at 'em in no time
- Position Sex Bible
- He lies on his back, but bends his knees up so she slides down into him and can lean back on his legs while riding him. He gets the best view around
- Kama Sutra 365
- She lies on her back with her knees pulled back against her chest, planting her feet on his chest. He kneels and enters her slowly, savoring every moment.
- Daily Sex 365 Positions
- He sits on the bed legs straight out. She sits on his lap, taking his penis inside. You two can bounce and/or grind, but this position is great for lots of kissing and hands free fun.
- The Little Black Book of Sex Positions
You've probably heard this a million times, but communication is vital to a healthy sex. Here's the twist: so is respect. You need to respect each other's needs, desires, and boundaries. This is where a lot more equality comes in. Both of you need to adjust, not change yourself, but adjust to help fulfill each other's needs. This is a two way street.
Maybe your partner gets off on pleasuring you. Maybe they fantasize about bringing you to orgasm multiple times in one session. Maybe they sincerely love giving you oral sex. I know it sounds kind of out there, but there's girls that enjoy sucking dick and guys that love licking pussy. Also, there's guys that love sucking dick and girls that love licking pussy. I don't judge. You do you.