It’s not what gets you off, but who gets you off, that matters. Anal toys are a great way to explore each other’s preferences, while switching roles can open up new worlds of pleasure for you and your partner, in and out of the bedroom!
“Pegging” is the act of a woman penetrating a man using a strap-on. There are many styles, shapes and sizes of these available. Just like when choosing anal toys for anal training for anyone, in general its best to start at the smaller end of the scale. Some strap-ons give you the option of attaching a vibrating bullet or other clitoral stimulating device. Really take things to new orgasmic heights for both of you with these add-on’s! Some couples are going to have a hard time venturing out into this “new world” of pegging, so let us help by explaining why it’s worth trying.
At the very least, pegging is about stimulating the prostate gland. And for many men, having their prostate stimulated feels well, pretty amazing. The prostate or “male G-spot” can give guys extremely intense orgasms, unlike anything typical intercourse can provide. At most it allows for a role reversal second to none, as there is no other way for a woman to have such physical and psychological control over a man (and her own sexuality for that matter). This does not mean the man has to “submit” by any stretch of the imagination. Of course the individual couple can decide on that part of the experience, if that is what they desire.
One last and very important point: men are visual creatures. Many will get off on a woman taking charge in the bedroom alone, so if he is in a position where he can watch you pleasure him in this new and exciting way (don’t forget to really enjoy yourself too, while you’re at it), he will have one of the most erotic, sexually satisfying experiences of his life. Take advantage of those mirrored closet doors, wall mirrors, or even film the experience to enjoy together later if that’s what you’re into! So, why deny your relationship the closeness and the freedom that comes with trying anything and everything you desire with the one you love?
Things to consider before you take the plunge…
- You are definitely going to need lube. Lots and lots of lube. Be sure that you choose one that is thick and will provide cushion for anal penetration. Remember if you are using a silicone dildo, only use a water-based lubricant to keep your silicone toy from melting away.
- You may also want to try a product with gentle relaxing agents, to relax sphincter muscles and ease penetration.
- Men may feel a little self conscious about the cleanliness of what’s beyond that “back door”. This can be solved by “prepping” the area first, using an enema or anal douche.
- Some men can climax from anal penetration alone. Most cannot. Don’t forget to pay attention to the “main attraction”. This could also be a time to introduce a male masturbation toy into the bedroom. Play with positions until you find one that is right for both of you.
- If you are behind him, use a strategically placed mirror for him to enjoy the view. He can take matters into his own hands or you can give him a good old fashioned “reach around”. Try having him lie on his back with his butt past the edge of the bed to give you very easy access in more ways than one: You can kneel or stand depending on your or the bed’s height and have the ease of maneuvering to stroke his manhood and caress your breasts.
- Don’t get carried away too soon. Let him guide you with his body or verbalize what feels good (or doesn’t) and if he wants to take a break. You can step things up once you know he is comfortable and enjoying himself!
