If you live somewhere that observes Daylight Saving Time, it ends overnight on Saturday, 11/2/24. You know the drill…it’s time to “fall back”. Setting those clocks back an hour before you hit the hay always feels somewhat refreshing, like you’re getting an “extra” hour to do whatever you want with! Even if we only feel the benefits of the time change for a few days, make the most of it with these sensational & sexy ideas for what to do with your spare time! Use these tips today, tomorrow, or any time you find yourself with an extra hour for romance.
1. Make Dinnertime Playtime
Everyone needs to eat. So, when you have a little extra time on your hands, why not use it to make your meals extra fun? Whether it’s just the two of you or you get the whole family involved, use that hour to make an occasion out of dinner. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive; just new & different from the norm. Stock up on your favorite toppings and make an epic nacho bar or build-your-own pizza night. Make sandwiches and salads, throw down a blanket, and have a picnic in your living room (or your backyard if it’s still weirdly warm for November). Share the kitchen so you can each cook one course of a more elaborate meal, or put on your own mini cooking competition show. The possibilities are endless when you find flirty & fun ways to play with your food.
Want to really turn up the heat? Enjoy your private dinner with the added side of a remote-controlled panty vibrator, like the classic couple’s favorite We-Vibe Moxie +. Put your lover in control with the remote or the phone app, and let them tease and please you throughout your attempt at having a normal dinner. There’s no way this meal isn’t ending with some hot kitchen counter or table sex. Bon appetit!
2. Put Your Love in Writing
Have an hour to spare and feeling super romantic? Time to sit down with your partner and write love letters! Sure, you can type them on a computer if that’s all you have access to, but it feels more personal if you can hand-write your note, especially if you use special stationery and pretty pens.
Find somewhere quiet and comfortable, ideally outdoors if it’s a nice day; nature is always particularly soothing for the soul. Sit with your thoughts for a bit, then write down your deepest feelings and darkest desires you want to share with your lover. A meandering brain dump is fine; they don’t have to be Shakespearean sonnets. Just write to your lover in a style that suits you. When you’re both finished, exchange love letters and read them, whether out loud or silently. Your special notes will no doubt trigger laughter, tears, or both…and a rekindled sense of romance. It’s good to be reminded of those meaningful memories, and those amazing feelings from when you first got together.
Want an even sexier way to get your most wanton wants down on paper? Either cooperatively or independently, you and your partner should write out a “sexual bucket list”. Jot down every idea you can think of, no matter how bizarre, for things you’d really like to try with your partner in the realm of sex, kink, and romance. Then come together, share your lists, and discuss what you both came up with. Then all that’s left to do is start checking things off…together!
3. Get your Game On!
Instead of your usual evening chill time sitting around watching Netflix, clear off that cluttered dining room table and choose a game to play together. Sure, there are tons of naughty dice & bedroom board games to help set the mood for love, but you can save those for later. I’m talking about good, old-fashioned board or card games here. Whether you’re playing classics like checkers or chess, two-player childhood favorites like Battleship or Guess Who, or a super fun murder mystery or escape room game, you’ll both be engaging your brains and socially engaged with each other. Games help get couples talking in a way that passive forms of entertainment just can’t do. The cooperation you cultivate while playing games together may even help you be more in sync in the bedroom. Hopefully, you’ll have so much fun the first time, you can make game night a weekly tradition!
4. Play Dress-Up (or dress-down)
When you have an extra hour to make sexy time a special occasion, a little roleplay can be the perfect way to fit the bill. Discussing what kinds of characters and scenes you’d both like to experience is a great way to share your fantasies. Whether you want to do a French Maid-turned-dominatrix or a naughty nurse on the night shift, the possibilities are endless! Figure out your costumes by shopping at Lover’s Lane together, and get some flirty accessories to really sell your performance. Finally, just dive in and see where the moment takes you. Pretending to be someone you’re not, even just for a bit, is incredibly freeing. Bedroom role play can help you explore & express your sensuality in ways you may not have discovered before.
While your clothes and costumes will most likely wind up coming off at the end of a role play scenario, you can also flip the script and make taking off your clothes the whole point. Put on a sexy striptease show for your lover, complete with music to set the mood and hot lingerie underneath it all. Have fun with it and show off your greatest moves…even if they’re not so great. While stripteases are often portrayed as the girl stripping for the guy, they can (and should) easily go the other way sometimes, too. Don’t forget to have some sexy (or silly) men’s wear in your top drawer for the big reveal. If you’re on the shy side, playing a game that will help tell you what to take off may be a fun way to go, too.
5. Take Each Other Dancing
Enjoy an old-fashioned date night out on the town. Dress to shake your groove thang and head to a local jazz club, a country bar with line dancing, a disco, or even some salsa or swing dance lessons. Anywhere with a great dance floor and even better music. No good dance venue close to you? That’s okay, you don’t have to go anywhere special. Just scooch some furniture aside and spend a half-hour dancing in your living room! Dancing is one of the only forms of exercise that engages the whole brain, so it releases a lot of the same happy hormones as love and sex! Some studies have shown that engaging in dance-based fitness programs regularly can even help stave off dementia.
It doesn’t have to be fancy, professional quality ballroom dancing to get those sexy juices flowing, either! Taking formal dance lessons with your love is educational & fun, but you can replicate the benefits of choreographed & cooperative dance at home. Play a dance-based video game together, make up your own Zumba routine to a favorite song with a good beat, or throw on a clip from Dancing with the Stars and try to recreate a fancy tango or foxtrot routine. No matter how you do it, engage in “the vertical expression of horizontal desires” with your lover today, and see if you can lead them right to the bedroom.
6. Break out that Toy Box
When you have an extra hour to “play” with, there’s no need to restrict your lovemaking to a before-bed quickie…especially if you can both sleep in the next day. Why not make your sexy session extra-special by tossing a toy or two into the mix?
If you’re new to using toys together, a basic finger vibe (or one with a bonus flicking tongue clitoral stimulator) or a vibrating cock ring can be a great way to go. Communicate with your partner and begin to learn what they like…then do more of that! If you don’t want a more traditional couple’s toy to come between you below the waist, nipple toys can add a fun twist. Or, if you’re looking for a way to torture and tease your lover into the ultimate orgasm, you really can’t beat a wand vibrator for adding knee-buckling, spine-tingling power to your play.
7. Go Stargazing
The late fall/early winter is the PERFECT time to get your sky-watching on! Plus, since it gets dark so much earlier now, you don’t have to stay out super late to enjoy the best views of the cosmos. Sure, it’s a little chilly out, but that just gives you an excuse to cuddle closer once you come in from the cold! And really, I can think of few things more romantic than holding your lover in the dark while you ponder the beauty & vastness of the universe together.
Pack blankets and some thermoses of herbal tea or hot cocoa (or wine, we don’t judge!), dress in cozy layers, and find a nice dark area to stargaze from. The further from the light pollution of cities and suburbs, the better. You can take binoculars or a telescope if you have one, but that’s not completely necessary; you’ll still see a lot with the naked eye. There are also several great phone apps you can download beforehand that will tell you what you’re looking at up there. Then just snuggle up, stay in the moment, and enjoy the breathtaking views. And if you don’t have ideal access to the best sky views IRL, a date night seeing a show at a planetarium can be just as romantic!
