Sex Tips to Heat Up Your XXXmas Eve
The holiday season is a stressful time, and what makes a better stress-buster than sex? After the presents are placed and the stockings are stuffed, meet your lover under the mistletoe, then try these tips for some grown-up fun between the sheets.
If you have kids, you know you’re already going to be up late on Christmas Eve, so why not make the most of it? You may have to keep the volume down, though, so as to not wake your Santa-anticipating tots. No tiny humans at home? Congratulations…you can, as the Avenue Q song says, “be as loud as the hell you want when you’re making love”! Read on for some tips on how to have the best sex of your life…on Christmas Eve, or any night at all!
1. Go easy on the egg nog…
…especially if it’s spiked. And the heavy meals. As tempting as it can be to overindulge in alcohol and rich, carb-loaded and sweet foods and drinks this time of year, some of those things can be serious sex drive killers. You know the “turkey coma” everyone talks about at Thanksgiving? It’s not from the tryptophan in the turkey…it’s just from eating more calories in one sitting than you normally would in two whole days!
When you overeat, your body is too busy using its resources to digest your meal to be interested in sex. Not to mention how bloated and unsexy you probably feel. Alcohol, too, while lowering your inhibitions, can also dampen your libido. Your brain may tell you that you want sex, but unfortunately, especially if you have a penis, your body may say no. Stick to lighter, smaller meals, periodic healthy snacks, and only one or two of your favorite boozy indulgences (hint: red wine in moderation may actually help make you horny) so you feel your best for sex long into the night.
2. Take your time.
Don’t be afraid to slow things down to make sure you’re in the right headspace before you start foreplay and sex. Even on a great, low-stress day, it can take 30-45 minutes to really tune out the world and tune into yourself. Pay attention to your body and your deepest desires in that moment, and communicate them to your partner.
Engage in lots of close, intimate contact, kissing, and slow, gentle foreplay as you continue to get in the right mindset. Don’t rush it, and once you’ve found that sweet spot, do your best to stay there, focused on the amazing sex you’re having with your lover. The holidays are stressful AF, and you’re just not going to be able to fully enjoy yourself if you’re dwelling on who you may have forgotten to buy a present for at your huge extended family Christmas dinner tomorrow. Just slow down and enjoy it!
3. Don’t forget to decorate…
…yourself, and your space. Whether it’s your bedroom or an entirely different room of the house because it gets you further from the sleeping kiddos, getting your environment just right can help get your head in the best spot for sex, too. Light some scented candles, put on some soft but sexy music, and dim the lights. Don your holiday best lingerie or sexiest skivvies so you feel amazing, and maybe even spritz on some pheromone perfume or cologne to really let your body do the talking.
4. Don’t be afraid to talk dirty.
You’re long past being worried about getting a lump of coal from Santa, so go ahead and land yourself on that naughty list. Talking dirty to your lover can take your sex to a whole new level by activating certain physiological responses and hormones in the body and brain. Make sure you’ve discussed likes & dislikes and any boundaries for your dirty talk before you begin, then just let yourself get carried away by the sensations and what your mind and body crave in the heat of the moment.
In this fantastic “Beginner’s Guide to Talking Dirty in Bed” from Men’s Health, Dr. Jess O’Reilly writes, “Learning to talk dirty can make sex more compelling and intense, as it engages multiple regions of the brain including those involved in processing sound and emotion for a powerful mind-body experience.” Don’t be afraid to make all the natural vocalizations of pleasure you want, either. Your carnal moans, sighs, gasps, and even screams of delight are a huge turn-on and serve as encouragement for your partner to keep doing what they’re doing. You’ll just maybe have to keep it down a bit if you have little ones in the house.
5. Buy your own toys.
You may know the adage, ‘Christmas is for kids’, but nothing says grown-ups shouldn’t get some new toys and enjoy them, too. Let “naughty Santa” leave some special presents under the bed instead of under the tree. A Christmas gift of a wand massager a vibrating C-ring will leave no doubt in your partner’s mind that you wanna get some of that hot XXXmas sex. And sex toys are truly the gifts that keep on giving, paying off with loads of pleasure for years to come.