Men, you probably don’t think too much about your prostate. But maybe you should think more about that little walnut-sized gland that’s an essential part of your reproductive system. Sure, it plays a vital role in the production of seminal fluid and its projection out of your penis during ejaculation. Obviously, that’s a key component of your sexual pleasure, but there’s even more to it than that!
Underestimating your prostate’s ability to enliven your sex life represents a common and colossal male mistake. Nan J. Wise, Ph.D. emphasizes how men can promote their sexual pleasures by focusing on more than their ejaculations alone.
In her March 2021 Psychology Today article, Wise says: “Men (and their partners) can explore and expand the sensation and intensity of their erotic experience by combining stimulation from a number of these genital zones, including the nipples and the prostate, and using the mind to focus on the sensations without chasing the orgasm and/or enjoy your fantasies (mind enhancement).”
Located between your bladder and penis just in front of your rectum, the prostate, fortunately, is not hard to put your finger on. Literally. So, if you haven’t gotten in touch with your male G-spot – sometimes also referred to as the P-spot – already, your full appreciation of and potential to enhance your sexual pleasure are deeply in arrears, so to speak. Do so as soon as possible. Surrounded by sensitive nerve endings that normally remain untouched, the prostate can definitely provide you hours of digital delight.
How best to do that, you ask? Well, according to ro.co’s health guide, there are three simple steps you should take to touch and massage or ‘milk’ your prostate:
- Apply lube around your anus and the finger you’re using.
- Gently insert a finger and feel for a round lump a few inches inside the rectum. The prostate will feel fleshier and softer than the surrounding area. You may need to re-apply lube several times throughout.
- Press or massage the gland with the pad of your finger.
Note: A fourth and highly recommended step is to trim your nails and clean your hands before and after insertion of your finger in search of glandular gratification.
“The prostate has gotten a lot of press for being an underrated source of sexual pleasure for men, similar to the G-spot in women,” informs their health guide, adding from the medical expert’s side: “Studies also suggest that prostate-induced orgasms may produce more intense and satisfying stimulation than penile stimulation.”
In an article entitled “Prostate Orgasm: What It Is,” WebMD advises, “If you’re trying it for the first time, you may want to begin with stimulation of the perineum. As you move backwards towards the anus, you will know you’ve hit the right spot when the area under your skin feels softer and you feel an increase in sensation. You may also feel like you need to pee at the same time.”
The article goes on to make an important point: Fingering is fun, but you’re not limited to dexterous digits. Sex toys such as vibrators or plugs certainly can take you to the Promised Land of prostate orgasm. You can apply them internally, externally or both.
“Prostate massagers, anal-safe vibrators, and butt plugs all work wonders to help you give your partner a powerful prostate orgasm,” says masterclass.com in its “5 Tips for Having a Prostate Massage” article.
If you have made the bold, daring, and highly pleasurable choice of having a partner let their fingers do the milking, masterclass.com suggests this tip:
“Try several massaging techniques. There are numerous ways you can massage the prostate, but it’s best to begin slowly and build up speed and pressure once you know your partner enjoys a particular motion. Using the pad of your fingertip, stroke the prostate using a “come here” motion. You can also try tapping it, stroking it in a circular motion, or even putting pressure on it without moving your finger at all. Ask for your partner’s feedback, and pay attention to how they respond to each technique.”
Mindbodygreen’s “How To Have A Prostate Orgasm: 11 Tips, Positions & Toys To Try” features a great review of the types of toys and how best to use them for prostate stimulation.
WebMD offers the following worthwhile safety tips, too:
“Prostate orgasm is generally safe to try so long as you take proper precautions to avoid scratching or irritating the tissue”:
- Trim your nails
- Be gentle, go slow, and start small
- Use a strong lubricant
You can use a water-based lubricant or a silicone one. Some prefer silicone for anal play because it tends to last longer and provide more lubrication. However, if using silicone toys, be sure to use a water-based lube.
If you’re worried about things getting a little, well, crappy back there, hopefully this will set your mind at ease. “Because the prostate is so near the rectum, you shouldn’t encounter poop so long as you’ve had a bowel movement within the last day or so. However, if you’re worried about the possibility or you need to go to the bathroom, you can check beforehand. If an inserted device or finger emerges clean, you should be fine. If not, perhaps leave prostate massage for another day.”
Promescent.com offers a very thorough and comprehensive guide to prostate milking that includes some of the health benefits, such as:
- It’s incredibly pleasurable, “Prostate milking is an intimate experience, adds variety to foreplay, and may even mean more intense orgasms.”
- It may help with Erectile Dysfunction (ED).
- It may help with prostatitis, a conditioned characterized by swelling and inflammation of the prostate.
- It may help with painful ejaculation.
- It may improve urine flow.
Lastly, In November 2020, our own Kristin T. provided a superb Prostate Play Primer that’s worth perusing for additional prostate pleasure tips that will give you guidance that helps you tickle your tush into unforgettably glorious glandular orgasms.